Jewish Burials
Exploring Jewish Burial Traditions
Understanding the importance of Jewish burial customs is fundamental to honoring the religious significance of Jewish funeral traditions. At Beth David Jewish Funerals, a family-owned Jewish funeral provider, we prioritize serving you and your family with the utmost respect and adherence to Jewish burial customs.
After Death: Rituals and Protocols
After contacting us at Beth David Jewish Funerals, your next call should be to your rabbi or the deceased’s rabbi. A Shomer, or “watchman,” remains with the deceased from death until the funeral and burial, ensuring continuous vigilance. Services are arranged to accommodate the family's needs, with consideration given to the rabbi's schedule and cemetery constraints. Traditional Jewish funerals typically last about twenty minutes, featuring psalms, scripture readings, and a eulogy.
Preparation of the Body
Jewish burial customs entail specific traditions for preparing the deceased, differing from those of other faiths. Central to these customs is the prohibition of embalming, deemed a desecration of the body. Instead, Jewish families have two primary options for preparation.
One approach involves the funeral home dressing the deceased in attire provided by the family or in the traditional Jewish burial garment, known as "tahrichim" or a shroud. Alternatively, a more observant practice is the Tahara, a ceremonial washing conducted by a sacred burial society called a "Chevra Kadisha." Committed to upholding Jewish tradition, they perform this ritual in accordance with religious guidelines, reciting psalms and prayers as they bathe the deceased in a mikvah.
While some reform families may opt against the Tahara, choosing it is often driven by a belief that the soul's journey to heaven and subsequent judgment by God is positively influenced by adherence to Jewish tradition. Seen as an act of reverence, this preparation not only affects the deceased but also serves as a spiritual representation for their loved ones. Understanding the significance behind these customs often leads even reform families to choose the Tahara ceremony.
The Burial Process
The preference for Jewish burial customs is earth burial, reflecting a tradition dating back to Biblical times. The Kaddish prayer is recited after the casket has been lowered and the grave filled. While mausoleum entombments are an option in some regions, consulting with the rabbi is advised due to varying preferences.
Selecting a Casket
Choosing a casket is a deeply personal decision, often laden with emotion. Beth David Jewish Funerals understands the challenges involved and is committed to providing guidance tailored to your specific circumstances. View Available Caskets
Selecting a Cemetery
Beth David Jewish Funerals assists families in selecting cemetery property, considering factors such as location and preferences. Careful consideration should be given to this decision, as it is not one to be made hastily.
Death Benefits and Future Planning
Families may be eligible for various benefits at the time of death, subject to eligibility criteria. Beth David Jewish Funerals provides guidance on accessing benefits and assists with the filing process. Pre-arranging a funeral ensures that your wishes are honored and provides financial flexibility. Considerations for asset management and nursing home care are addressed through pre-paid, guaranteed funeral trusts.
At Beth David Jewish Funerals, we are dedicated to supporting you and your family through every aspect of Jewish burial customs, ensuring a respectful and meaningful farewell for your loved one.
Following the Burial
Numerous Jewish burial customs and traditions are observed upon returning from the cemetery, many of which are discussed with the rabbi due to their customary nature.
Shiva: The First Period of Mourning
Shiva, meaning seven, denotes the immediate seven-day mourning period following burial. The day of burial counts as the first day, with Shabbat and holidays included in the mourning period. Mourners typically remain at home during Shiva, with community members offering comfort and support.
Shloshim: The Second Period of Mourning
Shloshim, or thirty, extends for thirty days following the burial. Re-entry into daily life begins during Shloshim, although celebratory activities are generally avoided. Consultation with the rabbi is advised regarding observance during festivals and special occasions.
Yahrzeit: Annual Commemoration
The Yahrzeit, observed annually on the Hebrew calendar, commemorates the anniversary of the death. Rituals include lighting a memorial candle and reciting the Kaddish prayer. Congregations often mention the deceased during Shabbat services closest to the Yahrzeit.
Unveiling/Dedication of the Marker
Although not mandated, many families choose to hold a ceremony when installing the grave marker or headstone. Traditionally, this occurs close to the first Yahrzeit or after Shloshim. The marker, or Matzava, can be customized within cemetery regulations, with assistance available from Beth David Jewish Funerals.
Visiting the Grave
Jewish tradition discourages excessive grief and emphasizes respect for the deceased. Cemetery visitation should not be overly frequent, with guidelines varying among authorities. Learn about the tradition of leaving stones or pebbles on a grave as a sign of remembrance.